A Guide to Nerd Guys Meeting and Dating Women: How to start talking to them Part 3

OK.  Your dressed right, bathed in the last 24 hours, and understand how to not mess up the personal space and body language.  You see an attractive young woman and need to talk to her.  What do you do?

This is the famous question of what is the best opening line.  Honestly, opening lines suck and feel fake.  The fact of the matter is there is no such thing as a good or bad opening line.  If the girl thinks you are attractive you could say something completely dumb and worthless and she will be enthralled.  If she does not then you could make a statement that would cure global warming and she will blow you off.  The only time the opening statement is important is in that very broad “maybe” zone that most guys end up in.

I have found the best way to open a conversation is observational humor or comments.  If you are at an event and see a couple women with big hair you could say something like “I hadn’t realized the 80’s were back”.  If you are at a coffee house and observer her reading a book you could ask here what she is reading (or, better yet, notice what book she is reading and make an intelligent comment about it.  If you have the time it might be worth looking the book up on your iPhone, read a review, and then tell her you were just reading a review of the book and wanted to get a first hand opinion on it).  If it’s cold or hot make a comment about that.  Honestly, it really doesn’t matter what it is (unless you say something really dumb or inappropriate).  The reason it doesn’t matter is because it shows confidence.

Captain Kirk didn’t score with hot alien women from one end of the universe to the other just because he had power (although power doesn’t hurt.  Try to get some.  T shirt, by the way, from the Movie t shirt section) but mainly because he is insanely confident.  Girls don’t want to date a wimp, and the first test is if you are confident enough to strike up a conversation.  Look her in the eye and speak as clearly as you can.

My best “line”, for lack of a better term, is usually something on the order of “How are you doing?”  However, if I am in a park near a hot girl and the Blue Angels pass overhead in formation I will jump on that opportunity and say something like “Think they are on their way to finally bomb the Tenderloin?” (local humor).  The best part about that is not only have I opened a conversation, but if she laughs I know she has a good sense of humor too.

That’s it for now.  Next post: open ended questions.



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